Me vs I

Me vs I (Object vs Subject)

The majority of us feel an emptiness and incoherence in our lives, which is why we think of ourselves as blanks or squiggles instead of diamonds. We know the diamond-shaped dot was what we wanted to select but, in some way, our sense of self made us feel unworthy and so we rationalized why we selected the squiggle or the blank . It is the same way in life.

We are tacitly taught that we exist and just are the way we are. We have been taught that all people are true to their own genes, environment, and nature. We are conditioned to be objecs. We are taught to be “me” instead of “I”. when you think of yourself as “me”, you are limited. The “me” is always doesn’t act: it is acted upon by outside forces.

When you see yourself as an object, you believe how others (parents, teachers, peers, colleagues, and so on) describe you. You become that. You might want to be an artist, but others might tell you thatyou have no talent, training, or temperament. The “me” will say,”Who do you think you are? You are just an ordinary person. Get real.”

Creative = Positive think, behavior, attitude

It’s impossible ti be creative if you are negative. Most people presume that our attitudes affect our behavior and this is true. But it’s also true that our behavior determines our attitudes. You can pretend or act your way into a new attitude. We choose to be positive or to be negative.

Every time we pretend to have an attitude and go through the motions, we trigger the emotions we create and strengthen the attitude we wish to cultivate. Think, for a moment, about social occasions—Visits, dates, dinners out with friends, gatherings, birthday parties, weddings and so on. Even when we’re unhappy or depressed, these occasions force us to act as if we were happy. Observing other’s faces, postures, and voices, we unconsciously mimic their reactions. We synchronize our movements, posture, and tone of voice with theirs. Then, by mimicking happy people, we become happy.

In the end, we our own creativity is decided by what we choose to do or what we refuse to do. And as we decide and choose, so our destinies formed.

Reference:

Michael Michalko. 2006. Thinkertoys: a handbook of creative thinking technique. Berkeley: Ten Speed Press